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The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child

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  • Author：Daniel J. Siegel
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Summary

From the authors of The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline， an indispensable guide to unlocking your child's innate capacity for resilience， compassion， and creativity。

When facing contentious issues such as screen time， food choices， and bedtime， children often act out or shut down， responding with reactivity instead of receptivity。 This is what New York Times bestselling authors Daniel J。 Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson call a No Brain response。 But our kids can be taught to approach life with openness and curiosity。 When kids work from a Yes Brain， they're more willing to take chances and explore。 They're more curious and imaginative。 They're better at relationships and handling adversity。 In The Yes Brain， the authors give parents skills， scripts， and activities to bring kids of all ages into the beneficial "yes" state。 You'll learn

- the four fundamentals of the Yes Brain--balance， resilience， insight， and empathy--and how to strengthen them
- the key to knowing when kids need a gentle push out of a comfort zone vs。 needing the "cushion" of safety and familiarity
- strategies for navigating away from negative behavioral and emotional states （aggression and withdrawal） and expanding your child's capacity for positivity

The Yes Brain is an essential tool for nurturing positive potential and keeping your child's inner spark glowing and growing strong。

Praise for The Yes Brain

"This unique and exciting book shows us how to help children embrace life with all of its challenges and thrive in the modern world。 Integrating research from social development， clinical psychology， and neuroscience， it's a veritable treasure chest of parenting insights and techniques。"--Carol S。 Dweck， Ph。D。， author of Mindset

"I have never read a better， clearer explanation of the impact parenting can have on a child's brain and personality。"--Michael Thompson， Ph。D。

"Easily assimilated and informative， the book will help adults enable children to lead physically and emotionally satisfying and well-rounded lives filled with purpose and meaningful relationships。 Edifying， easy-to-understand scientific research that shows the benefits that accrue when a child is encouraged to be inquisitive， spirited， and intrepid。" --Kirkus Reviews

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Reviews

Junaid ，

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Jaclyn ，

I feel this book helps set a really great foundation on dealing with potential child tantrums。 I feel better prepared for these after reading this book！

Cole Schoolland ，

Excellent read for all parents。

Sam Beal ，

This book may have been better suited as a long blog post。 The section on emotional regulation was enlightening。 I see the value of building a relationship with your emotions， with an end goal of increasing resilience。 The better you know them， the less likely you'll be overwhelmed when you experience them。 This book may have been better suited as a long blog post。 The section on emotional regulation was enlightening。 I see the value of building a relationship with your emotions， with an end goal of increasing resilience。 The better you know them， the less likely you'll be overwhelmed when you experience them。 。。。more

Brianne ，

My daughter is two， and I will definitely be rereading as she gets older to remember all the good advice。 I am also going to look into their other books for discipline etc。。

Abbey ，

Love Daniel Siegel's work and loved this book of his with Tina Payne Bryson！ Love Daniel Siegel's work and loved this book of his with Tina Payne Bryson！ 。。。more

Kimberly ，

It's a decent parenting book。。。I'm just burned out on parenting books。 I still pick them up to listen to， but I can't say I super enjoy any of them。 🤷‍♀️ It's a decent parenting book。。。I'm just burned out on parenting books。 I still pick them up to listen to， but I can't say I super enjoy any of them。 🤷‍♀️ 。。。more

Kelly ，

This was interesting but didn't add much to what I already knew （maybe that's more a reflection of what I've read before than the book）。 I did appreciate the short cartoons at the end of each chapter intended to be shared with your kids to discuss the main ideas。 This was interesting but didn't add much to what I already knew （maybe that's more a reflection of what I've read before than the book）。 I did appreciate the short cartoons at the end of each chapter intended to be shared with your kids to discuss the main ideas。 。。。more

javier ，

This book had a lot of great insights about how you and your children think。 I think I only retained 10% and will need to re-read this。

Rachel ，

I would actually give this 3。5， but I think if I wasn't already following Dr Becky of Good Inside， I probably wouldn't already know half the tricks。 I would actually give this 3。5， but I think if I wasn't already following Dr Becky of Good Inside， I probably wouldn't already know half the tricks。 。。。more

Jill ，

I love the science behind the practices and practical applications you can use in your family。 We've been practicing some of the mindful strategies and applying them when necessary。 I love the science behind the practices and practical applications you can use in your family。 We've been practicing some of the mindful strategies and applying them when necessary。 。。。more

Brent Latimer ，

Good book but I feel it may overlap too much with Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline by the same authors。

Stephanie ，

This book was full of good stuff but seemed a little too overwhelming to someone like me who seems to be stuck with a no brain。

Kyly ，

I really enjoyed this parenting book！ It wasn’t preachy at all， just helpful and practical advise for myself as well as my children。 Can’t wait to read more by these authors！

Christopher Pope ，

Short and sweet and really practical。 This seems like a nice culmination of the authors' works in The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline。 It takes that same approach to essentially be your child's therapist to a really practical level in this book， particularly for older children and teens。 I'll definitely revisit these in a few years when I have children that are in the age range where these tools will be most effective （though this is still relevant for those with young children because Short and sweet and really practical。 This seems like a nice culmination of the authors' works in The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline。 It takes that same approach to essentially be your child's therapist to a really practical level in this book， particularly for older children and teens。 I'll definitely revisit these in a few years when I have children that are in the age range where these tools will be most effective （though this is still relevant for those with young children because it talks a lot about the tone parents must take through your kids' lives）。 。。。more

Hannah Honeybun ，

I really enjoy these guys approach to parenting and the scientific knowledge behind their methods。 This book was a little long winded in sections and could have been a lot better if condensed。 I loved the diagrams and cartoons for the kids to read。 The information was fantastic as always。

Melissa McCrackin ，

I love the simple approach this writing duo have for making the neuroscience of the brain so relatable and accessible in relation to child behavior。 There's nothing like understanding what's actually going on to make any situation easier to handle。 I love that these concepts are easily applied and help both the parental behavior as well as child behavior and development。 I love the simple approach this writing duo have for making the neuroscience of the brain so relatable and accessible in relation to child behavior。 There's nothing like understanding what's actually going on to make any situation easier to handle。 I love that these concepts are easily applied and help both the parental behavior as well as child behavior and development。 。。。more

Ashley ，

I really liked this book， and felt it gave a lot of perspective in broadly thinking about how my child may be thinking and responding to their “red zone” brain。 I’ve also found myself using some of these tactics to identify when -I’m- disregulated， so I can help my child the best I can。I will say that I wasn’t a fan of how the book was organized， and this may be a personal preference。 I feel it would have been better by giving the list of regulating strategies at the beginning of the book （like I really liked this book， and felt it gave a lot of perspective in broadly thinking about how my child may be thinking and responding to their “red zone” brain。 I’ve also found myself using some of these tactics to identify when -I’m- disregulated， so I can help my child the best I can。I will say that I wasn’t a fan of how the book was organized， and this may be a personal preference。 I feel it would have been better by giving the list of regulating strategies at the beginning of the book （like a preview， instead of in the last 1hr and 40min of the audiobook） and then have each chapter dedicated to a strategy or two。 But perhaps this was a test of the authors， to the audience， of how well they regulate， lol？I also wanted to say that my husband and I started with “No Drama Discipline” in the authors’ series of parenting books， and just felt it didn’t fit （we found it hard to interpret the principles to our then 1。5 year old…they are now almost 3 years old）。 However， I think The Yes Brain is better suited for toddlers because a lot of stuff is coming online in their brains， and awareness is just being noticed， making big feelings a daily offender of stress for us。 If you are starting with this series， I think I would recommend ppl to chronologically start here。 。。。more

Andres Augusto Jacome Lobo ，

Excellent。 It changes your mind It's a great book。 It gives you tools for being a better parent and recognize the beautiful son you have。 Excellent。 It changes your mind It's a great book。 It gives you tools for being a better parent and recognize the beautiful son you have。 。。。more

Hirdesh ，

Wow ！！It's a fantastic guide to know child-psychology and how to uplift the future of world。。Though being single， I felt glad to read it。 Highly Recommended to parents ！！！•Yes BrainoFlexible， curious， resilient， willing to try new things and even make mistakes。oOpen to the world and relationships， helping us relate to others and understand ourselves。oDevelops an internal compass and leads to true success because it prioritizes the inner world of a child and looks for ways to challenge the child’ Wow ！！It's a fantastic guide to know child-psychology and how to uplift the future of world。。Though being single， I felt glad to read it。 Highly Recommended to parents ！！！•Yes BrainoFlexible， curious， resilient， willing to try new things and even make mistakes。oOpen to the world and relationships， helping us relate to others and understand ourselves。oDevelops an internal compass and leads to true success because it prioritizes the inner world of a child and looks for ways to challenge the child’s whole brain to reach its potential。•No BrainoReactive and fearful， rigid and shut-down， worrying that it might make a mistake。oTends to focus on external achievement and goals， not on internal effort and exploration。oMight lead to gold stars and external success， but does so by rigidly adhering to convention and the status quo and becoming good at pleasing others， to the detriment of curiosity and joy。The Four Fundamentals of the Yes Brain•Balance: a skill to be learned that creates emotional stability and regulation of the body and brainoLeads to the green zone， where kids feel calm and in control of their bodies and decisions。oWhen kids are upset they may leave the green zone and enter the revved-up， chaotic red zone， or the shut-down， rigid blue zone。oParents can create balance by finding the “integration sweet spot。” Balance comes from being appropriately differentiated and linked。oBalance Strategy #1: Maximize the ZZZ’s—provide enough sleep。oBalance Strategy #2: Serve a Healthy Mind Platter—balance the family’s schedule。•Resilience: a state of resourcefulness that lets us move through challenges with strength and clarityoShort-term goal: Balance （getting back in the green zone）。 Long-term goal: Resilience （expanding the green zone）。 Both goals lead to the ability to bounce back from adversity。oBehavior is communication， so instead of focusing solely on extinguishing problematic behavior， listen to the message， then build skills。oSometimes kids need pushin’， and sometimes they need cushion。oResilience Strategy #1: Shower your kids with the four S’s—help them feel safe， seen， soothed， and secure。oResilience Strategy #2: Teach mindsight skills—show kids how to shift their perspectives so they are not victims to their emotions and circumstances。•Insight: the ability to look within and understand ourselves， then use what we learn to make good decisions and be more in control of our livesoThe observer and the observed: be the spectator observing the player on the field。oThe power is in the pause that lets us choose how we respond to a situation。oInsight Strategy #1: Reframe pain—ask kids， “Which struggle do you prefer？”oInsight Strategy #2: Avoid the Red Volcano eruption—teach kids to pause before erupting。•Empathy: the perspective that allows us to keep in mind that each of us is not only a “me，” but part of an interconnected “we” as welloLike the other skills， empathy can be learned through daily interactions and experiences。oIt’s about understanding the perspective of another， as well as caring enough to take action to make things better。oEmpathy Strategy #1: Fine-tune the “empathy radar”—activate the social engagement system。oEmpathy Strategy #2: Establish a language of empathy—provide a vocabulary that communicates care。oEmpathy Strategy #3: Expand the circle of concern—increase kids’ awareness of people outside their most intimate connections 。。。more

Brittany ，

This book is about helping children develop a Yes Brain， which means they’re open to try new things， they have a good sense of self， they can relate to others， and they have an internal compass that leads them to make good choices。 We as parents can help them do this by teaching them to be balanced， resilient， insightful， and empathetic。 For each attribute， there is a chapter explaining what it means and how parents can help， exercises to help parents teach these skills， a comic version to help This book is about helping children develop a Yes Brain， which means they’re open to try new things， they have a good sense of self， they can relate to others， and they have an internal compass that leads them to make good choices。 We as parents can help them do this by teaching them to be balanced， resilient， insightful， and empathetic。 For each attribute， there is a chapter explaining what it means and how parents can help， exercises to help parents teach these skills， a comic version to help explain each idea to kids in a simplified way， and ways for parents to develop these skills themselves。 It was very easy to read and understand。 I’m excited to try to develop these skills in my children （and myself）！ Thanks to NetGalley for the free ebook。 。。。more

One Cool Cat ，

I've read pretty much all the other books in this "series，" meaning mostly the other books by these co-authors。 This book fits in with the rest。 I find that they tend to repeat a lot of the same information across each book， maybe with a different emphasis （I find Brené Brown books to have the same repetition issue）。As it has been a couple years since I last read No Drama Discipline， I didn't mind the repetition here and actually liked the reminders。 I don't think I'd have liked it if I'd read t I've read pretty much all the other books in this "series，" meaning mostly the other books by these co-authors。 This book fits in with the rest。 I find that they tend to repeat a lot of the same information across each book， maybe with a different emphasis （I find Brené Brown books to have the same repetition issue）。As it has been a couple years since I last read No Drama Discipline， I didn't mind the repetition here and actually liked the reminders。 I don't think I'd have liked it if I'd read them closer together。 I'm glad I checked it out from the library rather than buying it because I think there was more overlap than I'd like to spend money or bookshelf space on。 That being said， if I didn't own Dan and Tina's other books， I would consider purchasing this one。 It's nice and concise， and it gets to the heart of what I liked in the other books。Empathy has been a bit of a buzz word for a few years now， and that's the main message of this one: empathy is a great idea for parenting kids。 It makes them happier and kinder， and you'll get along better if parent and child both understand each other。I follow a few parenting instagram accounts， and much of the information in this book is routinely offered by my favorite accounts （Dr Becky， Mr Chazz， our mama village）。 It makes me curious why the authors aren't actually specifically quoted much。 I like that Dan and Tina offer the theory and science along with practical tips and anecdotes。 It covers everything I want to know and how to use it in my own life。I'd rate this book 4。5， scaled down to a 4 on goodreads。 It's great， but I've also read it all before。 I like the reminders of what kind of parent I'd like to be along with actual tools to act better， not just feel better and then forget about in the heat of a tantrum。 。。。more

Kate Gilles ，

I really like the general message - cultivating openness and empathy in your child - and found the framing helpful for thinking about what I hope to foster in my kids and how to approach different situations / challenges / conversations。 I wasn't wild about the Conclusion - too much emphasis on helping kids grow into their "authentic self，" which can be confused with entitlement or lack of sensitivity to one's impact on others。 Now， to see if I can implement any of this in concrete ways with my I really like the general message - cultivating openness and empathy in your child - and found the framing helpful for thinking about what I hope to foster in my kids and how to approach different situations / challenges / conversations。 I wasn't wild about the Conclusion - too much emphasis on helping kids grow into their "authentic self，" which can be confused with entitlement or lack of sensitivity to one's impact on others。 Now， to see if I can implement any of this in concrete ways with my kids！ 。。。more

Kate Laird ，

Good book， lots of review from previous books If you’ve read The Whole-Brain Child this will feel a bit repetitive。 They spend time going back over information taught in that back and explaining why the Yes Brain or Whole Brain approach is beneficial。 If you’ve already bought in then all you really need at the tips， kids approaches， and fridge sheet from the end。 Valuable information for someone new to the authors。

MELODY ON ，

If you can get over the introduction in Chapter 1 and the slightly annoying voice， the rest of the book has very valuable information with practical suggestions。 I highly recommend this to parents， and I even learned some useful lifestyle habits and mindsets for myself as an adult。

Ashleigh ，

Great book that emphasized my own parenting beliefs。 Only 4 stars because I wanted them to tell me explicitly what to do and not just guidelines。 Ha ha。

Arizonagirl ，

This book has a bunch of good tips and tricks and seems to be based on solid child psychology theories， but I found it a bit of a slog。 I haven't read The Whole Brain Child or No-Drama Discipline， so perhaps I'd be more prepared for this one after reading those。 I also found that much of it did not apply to my preverbal toddler。 I'll keep this one in the back of mind and revisit it when my daughter is a bit older。 If you want the TL;DR version， google The Yes Brain refrigerator sheet （see below） This book has a bunch of good tips and tricks and seems to be based on solid child psychology theories， but I found it a bit of a slog。 I haven't read The Whole Brain Child or No-Drama Discipline， so perhaps I'd be more prepared for this one after reading those。 I also found that much of it did not apply to my preverbal toddler。 I'll keep this one in the back of mind and revisit it when my daughter is a bit older。 If you want the TL;DR version， google The Yes Brain refrigerator sheet （see below）。Refrigerator Sheet: The Yes Brain By Daniel J。 Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson Yes Brain: •tFlexible， curious， resilient， willing to try new things and even make mistakes。 •tOpen to the world and relationships， helping us relate to others and understand ourselves。 •tLeads to true success because it prioritizes the inner world of a child and looks for ways to challenge the child’s whole brain to reach its potential。 No Brain •tReactive and fearful， rigid and shut down， worrying that it might make a mistake。 •tMight lead to gold stars and external success， but does so by rigidly adhering to convention and the status quo and becoming good at pleasing others， to the detriment of curiosity and joy。 The Four Fundamentals of the Yes Brain1。 Balance: a skill to be learned that creates emotional stability and regulation of the body and brain •tLeads to the green zone， where kids feel calm and in control of their bodies and decisions。 •tWhen kids are upset they may leave the green zone and enter the revved-up， chaotic red zone， or the shut-down， rigid blue zone。 •tParents can create balance by finding the “integration sweet spot。” Avoid being too differentiated， or too linked。 •tBalance Strategy #1: Maximize the ZZZ’s—Provide enough sleep。 •tBalance Strategy #2: Serve a Healthy Mind Platter—Balance the family’s schedule。 2。 Resilience: a state of resourcefulness that lets us move through challenges with strength and clarity •tShort-term goal: Balance （getting back in the green zone）。 Long-term goal: Resilience （expanding the green zone）。 Both goals lead to the ability to bounce back from adversity。 •tBehavior is communication， so instead of focusing solely on extinguishing problematic behavior， listen to the message， then build skills。 •tSometimes kids need pushin’， and sometimes they need cushion。 •tResilience Strategy #1: Shower your kids with the Four S’s—Help them feel Safe， Seen， Soothed， and Secure。 •tResilience Strategy #2: Teach mindsight skills—Show kids how to shift their perspectives so they are not victims to their emotions and circumstances。 3。 Insight: the ability to look within and understand ourselves， then use what we learn to make good decisions and be more in control of our lives •tThe observer and the observed: Be the spectator observing the player on the field。 •tThe power is in the pause that lets us choose how we respond to a situation。 •tInsight Strategy #1: Reframe pain—Ask kids， “Which struggle do you prefer？” •tInsight Strategy #2: Avoid the Red Volcano Eruption—Teach kids to pause before erupting。 4。 Empathy: the perspective that allows us to keep in mind that each of us is not only a me， but part of an interconnected we as well •tLike the other skills， empathy can be learned through daily interactions and experiences。 •tIt’s about understanding the perspective of another， as well as caring enough to take action to make things better。 •tEmpathy Strategy #1: Hone the “Empathy Radar”—Activate the social engagement system。 •tEmpathy Strategy #2: Establish a Language of Empathy—Provide a vocabulary that communicates care。 •tEmpathy Strategy #3: Expand the Circle of Concern—Increase kids’ awareness of people outside their most intimate connections。 。。。more

Kristen McBee ，

Another great one from Siegel & Bryson。 This is a great primer when kids are preschoolers， and I think it will be helpful to read again when they’re in school。 Of course， all of theirs are good for rereading！

Karol Traczykowski ，

The book presents important concepts for parents on what values & skills to focus on to help children grow into meaningfull & concious & fullfilling life。 Minus one star for the examples which I found too simplistic。

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